mary mykhaylova LCSW

psychotherapy for authenticity and connection

The people who come to me are curious to get to know themselves in a deeper way. I work with individuals and couples who want to reflect on relationship patterns, perfectionism, anxiety, intergenerational family dynamics, and complex trauma histories. My style encompasses elements of psychodynamic theory, attachment theory, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), The Gottman Method, and mindfulness.

Areas of focus

Embracing your true self

Somewhere along the way, you may have learned to keep your emotional world zipped up. This was likely necessary and even beneficial in the past, keeping overwhelming memories, thoughts and feelings at bay, and helping you endure hardships and achieve your goals. You may call yourself a perfectionist. However, this way of moving through the world also comes at a bitter cost, leaving you exhausted and depleted. You show a false version of yourself to others, even to those you care about the most. You are ready to live more authentically, but are not sure where to begin.

Healing your relationships

Whether I see you individually or with your partner(s), I use an attachment-based lens when it comes to thinking about you and your relationship dynamics. Together, we slow things down in order to gain a deeper understanding of occurs in your relationship cycle, and what vulnerable feelings are in the mix. I can also assist you with building skills for increasing intimacy and navigating conflict. With this knowledge and my support, you can explore communicating in new, authentic, and effective ways.

Setting healthier boundaries

Expressing your needs can feel complicated. On some level, it may seem that to be lovable or good enough, you should not have any needs at all. You can make your needs smaller and smaller to accommodate and please others, but this is not sustainable in the long run. You may find yourself lashing out, or turn inward and want to disappear entirely. With me, you can work on establishing clear boundaries and sort through when to say "yes" and when to say "no."

Interrupting unhelpful patterns

You get caught in dynamics—with partners, family, friends, and at work—which feel uncomfortable and frustrating, yet familiar. You engage in the same patterns for reasons that elude you. Or you have some awareness of what is playing out, but remain stuck in cycles of repetition. Together, we can work toward both short-term and long-term change.

Building self-trust

Do you tend to rely on external validation and outside ideas when it comes to what you should do, think, and feel? Do you struggle with trusting yourself and making your own decisions? A lack of confidence can leave us feeling stuck and unable to make the changes that we need, want, and deserve.

My background

You may be wondering about how my experience as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) informs my abilities to help you as your psychotherapist.

I graduated with my MSW from Smith College School for Social Work in 2016, and completed a postgraduate fellowship at Access Institute for Psychological Services during 2017-2019. I was trained with a psychodynamic theoretical orientation, which instills a curiosity about the unconcsious and how our past experiences impact our current patterns. Subsequently, I completed the Externship and Core Skills Training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) in 2019 and 2023, and Levels I and II in The Gottman Method in 2024.

What I value the most about the clinical social work approach to mental health is the intrinsic focus on the individual in their enrironment: a way of thinking not only about someone’s internal world, but also about the external, including the social, cultural, and systemic influences and that shape identity and experience. In my practice, I strive to create a safer space by attending to how systems of power (with respect to race, gender, sexuality, class, ability, among others) shape identities and relationships and how this may emerge between us.

Mariya "Mary" Mykhaylova © 2021
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